It is important to keep the spark alive in your relationship. After the initial buzz starts to fade, both men and women can settle into a routine. Of course, no one is expecting you to maintain the lust and excitement of the first year, but you don’t want things to go stale either. That is the trick of maintaining a happy, long term relationship. But how do you get to there? What do you do? There isn’t a generic answer because everyone couple is different. But, here are a couple of simple ways you can maintain your relationship for years to come.
Remember the first year when you showered each other with gifts and how happy and excited you were? That might have slowed down a bit now, but gifts and presents are a great way of keeping things fresh. Because you are so comfortable with each that you don’t try as hard anymore, a spontaneous, romantic night out or an impromptu present is the way to spice it up. A bouquet of flowers or cooking her favourite meal are great gift ideas for her, while you could buy your partner tickets to their favourite sports team or band for him. They are personal and show your significant other that you still think of them and love them.
It’s obvious, but it is surprising how many couples can’t stick to this one simple rule. It shows your partner that you have no respect for your relationship or them. Even though they might forgive you, they will never forget, and your relationship will never be the same.
Realise The Power Of Friendship
A lot of couples will say that they are not just lovers, they are best friends. It is a cliché, but it is one of the foundations of a long-term relationship. Basing your relationship on friendship is a great way to get closer to one another. You know everything little thing about them, from their favourite colour to the tick they make when they are lying. As the lust begins to fade away, it is replaced by an even stronger love that comes from friendship.
Although it is important to be as close as possible, you still have to be an individual. Even lovers and best friends can’t stand each other all of the time, so make sure you don’t spend all of your time as a couple. Having alone time allows you to let off steam and enjoy your company. It is amazing how healthy half an hour every day is for any couple.
Don’t Get Sloppy
When you get into a routine, it is easy to let yourself go a little bit. Keep the spark alive by maintaining a high standard of personal hygiene and grooming, just like you did at the beginning. Trying to replicate how you started your relationship isn’t always a good idea, but when it comes to hygiene, these standards should be the same from start to finish.
Don’t Be Afraid To Talk
You are bound to annoy each other from time to time. But, instead of keeping it all in to avoid arguments, talk it out. It’s a lot healthier. Tackling the problem head on is a great tool to keep your relationship going because you can constructively work on your issues, the pair of you!