Although a divorce is never going to be pleasant for you or your family, sometimes it’s the best course of action. I won’t lie to you here. There’s going to be a lot of emotional pain. You’ll be facing the polar opposite of all the joy and optimism that came right after the proposal. Although it may be tough, there are certain practical things you should do. This will ensure the whole bitter affair isn’t any harder than it needs to be.
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The worst thing you can do when facing a divorce is ignore the problem. This can be applied to all kinds of social issues. With most breakups, let alone divorces, one partner realises it’s the right thing to do before the other. If you’re finding it hard to accept, don’t slip into denial. Trying to patch things up and ignore the problem can lead to serious legal repercussions. If you’ve received any written communication from your partner’s solicitor, read and understand it. It’s painful, I know. However, once the emotional turmoil fades, you don’t want to be looking back in regret at how you handled the situation.
You should take your time deciding on a lawyer. Yes, divorces can be settled without any professional legal input. However, in most cases it’s a smarter decision to hire one. If possible, take recommendations from a professional divorce counsellor. They’ll understand your situation in detail, and won’t send you to a solicitor that’s wrong for you. Above all, don’t choose an overly aggressive lawyer who will try to milk the divorce for anything possible. Many of these promise things they can’t deliver, or stir up even more bitterness and tension between you and your ex. Go with professional, established solicitors who specialise in company law. Divorce solicitors, Bannister Preston, are a good example of this.
Wherever you can, try to maintain a channel of communication with your partner. Solicitors charge by the hour, as if divorce wasn’t financially damaging enough. The more things you can agree on with your ex, the easier the whole process will be on your wallet and your kids. Obviously, you know your situation best. Never put yourself in danger or a worse legal position. If you were in a hostile or abusive marriage, it could be better to let the solicitors handle most of the work. No matter how bitter you feel, don’t try to extort or manipulate your ex either. This can have significant, harmful effects later down the line.
Divorces are emotionally draining, but thorough, calculated decisions can help in the long run. If you want a divorce or you’ve had the nasty surprise of one, your head is going to be in a strange place for a while. However you feel, be wary of rash choices and unfounded resentment. Dealing with a divorce includes all kinds of practical decisions. For your financial stability, and the future happiness of you and your kids, you can’t approach your divorce lightly. As bad as things seem now, a solid, thought-out approach will make all the difference.