Juggling friends, parents, lovers, partners, in-laws and co-workers can be quite stressful at times. Especially when it comes to friends who feel they need to see you more than you need to see them.
If you start lying to your friends and family about why you can’t hang out, it’s likely to blow up in your face. Start being honest and say why you don’t want to or can’t go out. Definitely don’t use excuses like other halves, children or illness. Your friends will respect you more if you say you don’t fancy going out rather than making something up.
Call the shots
Instead of letting your friends agree when to next meet up, you should call the shots — especially if you are busy. Tell them when you are free to meet and what you want to do. You’ll probably find that the others appreciate you doing all the organising.
The same goes for family gatherings. Instead of getting caught up in lengthy email conversations, phone calls and texts, organise something and tell everyone where and when.
If you know it’s hard to pin people down for dates, offer alternatives. Set your date but offer two other options too. This way people can get back to you with a second choice and completely eliminates the ‘I can’t, what other dates can you do?’ emails.
Don’t play the game
If you are in a fairly new romantic relationship, there’s the temptation to play the game, or play hard to get. All this does is make the relationship more complicated. Again, what you need to do is be honest and normal. If you like someone, text them. If they text you, don’t worry about texting back straight away.
This gets rids of so much relationship angst.
Make some cuts
This might sound harsh but a lot of people are too polite to stop hanging out with someone even when that relationship is over. A good example of this is co-workers. This might be a group of people you felt you needed to spend time with in a new job just to ingratiate yourself and make the working environment a little easier.
Years down the line, are you still going to the pub once a week with these people? Are you nodding and smiling along with their jokes while politely sipping a JD and Coke? If you don’t want to hang out with these people, don’t. It doesn’t matter if it’s become habit or you feel you are obligated to.
Cut down how much time you spend with them and instead use that time to be with people you really like.
Keep it simple
Relationships don’t have to be complicated. If you want to call someone, do it. If you want to see someone, see them! Keep this in mind when planning things too.
Don’t get involved
If your friends have fallen out, don’t get involved. Be there for them if you need to but don’t get caught up in the gossip or fights.
Do you have any tips on how to simplify your relationships? Let us know in the comments,