Some (not all) women’s magazines do their best to feed us what we want to hear. They want to tell us how to live the perfect lifestyle, where to find the perfect man, how to have sex, why we need a good career and why we are doing everything else wrong.
They mean well. Women will always want to be thinner, look younger and have the perfect life but is that down to years and years of reading these sorts of magazines? Happiness is a lot more simple than following a step-by-step guide to the latest sex position.
Here are some lies women’s magazines are telling you.
You can be thin with little to no effort whatsoever
If losing weight was easy, we’d all be thin. There are plenty of articles out there about the latest food that will give you a flat belly or the five-minute miracle exercise that will make you look like a supermodel.
There’s always some truth in these articles. Some foods will boost your metabolism. Some exercises really will work loads of different muscles but these aren’t the secret ingredient to getting the body you want.
Skinny is beautiful
All the pictures in women’s magazines would suggest that skinny is beautiful. The articles do too, they’re all about losing weight and quick fixes for looking thinner. Really, these articles should focus on dressing for your body type, wearing the clothes that make you feel good and embracing how you look.
All women are lovely. The models you see in editorial are paid to be skinny and show off beautiful clothes. This is just how fashion is represented and I think a lot of magazines are doing a great job to show off other body shapes. We need to remember that model-thin women aren’t the majority. There are women of all shapes, sizes, ages and heights out there and they’re all gorgeous.
Low weight high reps
When women’s magazines give you a fitness program they often tell you to pick up one or two kilogram weights and do around 15 reps of each exercise. While, weighted exercise is always a good thing, you can lift heavier than that.
Don’t push your self too hard too early as it’ll lead to injury but there is more to life than 2kg dumbells. I bet you can lift a lot more than you think. There’s no point in me going into further detail when this hugely inspirational article on Nerd Fitness says it all.
You will not bet bulky or manish from lifting heavy weights.
Your happiness is based on big life events
The lovely lady at the other desk has just written a post exactly on this topic. Happiness isn’t about lottery wins, a big promotion or your wedding day. It’s about those little things in life (hitting all the green lights; dog onesies; breakfast at your favourite cafe) that all add up.
You need tips and tricks to have a good sex life
Tips and tricks have their place when it comes to sex but you don’t need to follow a manual every time you fall in bed with someone. Follow your instincts, take the lead from your partner (or partners…) and have fun. Don’t be afraid to tell a less experienced partner what to do and don’t be afraid to try something new.
You can spot reduce fat
No you can’t. You really can’t. Tricep dips will not get rid of bingo wings, squats will not give you skinny legs, and sit ups will not give you a flat stomach.
General fat loss is the only way to lose fat (unsurprisingly). Lift weights, do high intensity interval training and eat well. Your diet is 80% of what will get you the body you want.
You will only ever be happy at the top of your career
There are all these articles out there on how to get a promotion, how to get on with your bosses and how to deal with subordinates. A lot of them would suggest that being at the top of your career is what will make you happiest.
That’s not the case and it’s perfectly okay to be content with simply having a job and not a career. You don’t need to own your own business to be successful. Look for ways to be happy in the job you are in (maybe that means quitting…) rather than looking for way to progress to the top in search of happiness.
Hot men will fall at your feet if you play ‘the game’
How long should you wait before texting him? Should you play hard to get? What little lies should you tell on your online dating profile?
I have been in a relationship for the last eight and a half years so perhaps I’m not qualified to talk about this. However, I’m not sure waiting a predetermined amount of time before texting someone is going to make a relationship a success. Be yourself, be interesting and be patient.
You need to be in a relationship to be happy
Modern women are working more, starting businesses, doing frivilous things because they want to and aren’t defined by their relationships. There is nothing wrong with being single. It’s not a crime.
When someone asks you ‘are you still single?’ tell them yes and that it’s a choice – one you are thoroughly enjoying. Just because that person is in a relationship doesn’t mean that you should be. Some people are happier single, some people happier in a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with that.