Getting dumped is one of the worst feelings in the world. You may have seen it coming, but it doesn’t seem to soften the blow when things end. Instead, you can go through all the emotions of grief and end up an emotional wreck. It’s not easy getting over the loss of a relationship or the loss of the man you loved.
Accepting it’s over isn’t easy for anyone to do. We wrack our brains trying to figure where we went wrong. We even come up with strategies to convince our ex that breaking up was a mistake. We can make things work if only he’ll give us a chance. You might even consider some less than ethical ways to get him back. Perhaps you want to use jealousy to get your ex back or utilize some other mind games?
Obviously that’s not the best way to go about things. The first thing you need to do is look after you. You’re the one that’s been hurt. You probably feel betrayed and angry. Other common emotions include loneliness and a lack of self-worth. These are all natural and normal after a breakup. You feel rejected, and it’s easy to assume that there was something wrong with you rather than something wrong with him. In reality, the relationship just isn’t right regardless of who you are. It takes two after all.
So how do you take care of your bruised ego? Prove to yourself you are better off out of that particular relationship. Sit down and make a list of all the things you used to do before you two became a couple. See all the sacrifices in your life you made for a relationship that didn’t work out anyway. Now start to make some moves toward reclaiming the person you were.
Next it’s time to look and feel fabulous again. Book into the salon and get yourself a spa session or new haircut. What about a new outfit? Many people fall into the trap of defining themselves by their relationships. But you’re free of that now. You are you, and you are fabulous.
When was the last time you had a really good night out with the girls? Gal pals are incredibly good at cheering us up when we’re feeling less than happy about a breakup. So get them on the phone and book a big night out. Have a good meal, a few drinks, and dance your worries away at the nightclub.
Relationships leave us having to prioritize our time for the other person. Now you have some spare time for you. Start a new fitness program, or find an evening class to enjoy. Perhaps you can pick up an old hobby and make another go of it? There’s no need to mope or feel sorry for yourself. You’re a strong, independent woman who knows how to have a good time for herself!
There is a lot to be said for single life. You have freedom. You can pick and choose who you want to go out with next. And you can make the most of having your place to yourself once again to be the real you. Enjoy.